I’ve given hundreds of tarot readings and I’ve noticed something interesting: the questions people ask often aren’t the questions that would actually help them most.

Here are the questions I wish more people would bring to readings.

“What Am I Avoiding Looking At?”

Why This Question Is Gold

We all have blind spots. There are things we unconsciously dodge, minimize, or refuse to face. A reading focused on this question goes straight to what you actually need to know.

What It Often Reveals

• The real reason you’re stuck
• The conversation you’re not having
• The choice you’ve already made but won’t admit
• The truth that scares you

Example: Someone asks about why they can’t find a relationship. This question reveals: “You’re avoiding looking at how you sabotage connection the moment it gets real.”

“What Pattern Am I Repeating?”

Why This Question Is Gold

We’re all stuck in loops we can’t see from inside them. The cards are brilliant at revealing cycles.

What It Often Reveals

• The same situation in different packaging
• How you contribute to outcomes you don’t want
• The lesson that keeps showing up until you learn it
• Where you’re choosing familiar over healthy

Example: Someone asks about their latest job frustration. This question reveals: “You keep choosing roles where you’re undervalued because you believe you can prove your worth.”

“What Am I Not Admitting to Myself?”

Why This Question Is Gold

Self-deception is sneaky. We tell ourselves stories that protect us from uncomfortable truths. This question cuts through the BS.

What It Often Reveals

• You already know the answer to your question
• The relationship is already over
• You don’t actually want what you say you want
• You’re scared, not confused

Example: Someone asks if they should leave their job. This question reveals: “You’re not admitting that you’ve been checked out for a year and the question isn’t if you should leave, but why you’ve stayed.”

“What Would Change If I Stopped _?”

Why This Question Is Gold

It focuses on what you’re actively doing (or not doing) instead of what’s being done to you. Empowerment through personal responsibility.

Fill in the blank with:

• Stopped people-pleasing
• Stopped waiting for permission
• Stopped pretending everything’s fine
• Stopped making yourself small
• Stopped avoiding conflict

What It Often Reveals

• How much power you’re giving away
• What becomes possible when you reclaim agency
• The price you’re paying for your coping mechanism
• Who you’d be without this pattern

“What Does My Gut Already Know That I’m Ignoring?”

Why This Question Is Gold

It reconnects you with your own inner wisdom instead of seeking validation from cards (or readers).

What It Often Reveals

• You already have the answer
• Your intuition is speaking clearly; you just don’t like what it’s saying
• The truth your logic is talking you out of
• What you’d know for sure if this were someone else’s situation

Example: Someone asks what to do about a complicated situation. This question reveals: “Your gut knows this person isn’t reliable. You’re just hoping for evidence that you’re wrong.”

“What Am I Ready For That I Don’t Think I Am?”

Why This Question Is Gold

We often underestimate ourselves. This question highlights where you’re more prepared than you realize.

What It Often Reveals

• You’re more capable than you think
• The next level is accessible now
• You’ve already done the hard part
• What’s holding you back is only fear, not readiness

“What’s the Cost of Staying Where I Am?”

Why This Question Is Gold

We focus so much on the cost of change that we forget staying put has a price too. This question makes that price visible.

What It Often Reveals

• What you’re sacrificing by not changing
• How expensive “comfortable” actually is
• What you’re losing by playing small
• The opportunity cost of inaction

Example: Someone asks about whether to take a risk. This question reveals: “Staying safe is costing you your aliveness, creativity, and self-respect.”

“What’s Asking to Die So Something New Can Be Born?”

Why This Question Is Gold

It reframes endings as necessary for beginnings rather than just loss.

What It Often Reveals

• What you’re clinging to that’s already dead
• The identity you need to release
• The story that’s served its purpose
• What wants to emerge but can’t while you’re gripping the old

“What Would I Do If I Trusted Myself Completely?”

Why This Question Is Gold

It bypasses fear and self-doubt to access what you actually want and know.

What It Often Reveals

• The answer you’re afraid to act on
• How much you’re second-guessing yourself
• What becomes simple when you trust yourself
• The path that’s obvious when fear isn’t driving

Why People Don’t Ask These Questions

They’re Scary

These questions demand honesty. They don’t let you stay comfortable in confusion or victimhood.

They Require Responsibility

They put the focus on YOUR choices, patterns, and actions – not on what’s being done to you or what might happen.

They Don’t Offer Easy Answers

“Will he text me?” is simpler than “What am I avoiding looking at in this relationship?”

They Challenge Self-Image

We like to think we’re self-aware. These questions reveal we’re not as aware as we think.

The Bottom Line

The best tarot questions aren’t the ones that let you stay comfortable. They’re the ones that crack you open to see what you’ve been avoiding.

Next time you’re preparing for a reading – or pulling cards for yourself – try one of these questions instead of your usual ones.

The answers might make you uncomfortable. But discomfort is often the price of real insight.

And isn’t that what you’re actually seeking? Not comfort. Not reassurance. But truth that helps you move forward.

If you’ve been circling the idea of booking a reading—this is your sign.